What I do, what you do and what others do, there are always psychology behind our every behaviour, action. Nothing comes from out of this universe, everything follows the law of mind science or psychology. No matter how much someone is acting insane or pure irriational but you will sympathy for him/her if you understand the psychology behind the action.
Recently I received an email from someone (privacy maintained), he said that “I did everything for her, I told her that no one can love her more than me, I can die for her but still she doesn’t understand me, please help me”
My answer was “Her subconscious mind doesn’t consider you the one with whom she will have the healthiest offspring” and to understand it more read article on Love Psychology. So you need to get more educated in psychology behind human behaviors.
It is the law of nature, everything follows a law whether it is law of science or law of psychology but there are always equations.
So here comes the point how to understand those undefined rules. I practice my psychology this way. I observe people, their actions, their behaviors and analyze things. People come and say to me anything or they are acting randomly but I just stand there as an observer and observe things, taking nothing personal as my goal is to understand human mind and their behaviors. If you keep analyzing human behaviors on regular basis then you will have greater access to the human mind.
Rahul was very successful guy, in a social encounter he met with his old school friend Joy. In the end of the party Rahul was upset as Joy didn’t behave with him nicely, Joy even critised him to his little jokes. Now if Rahul could took things as they are and keeping himself detached then he would have found out that the problem was with Joy, not with him. As Joy became jealous of him. Jealously happens only when we don’t consider someone who is more deserving than us but in future we find that they moved ahead of us. You won’t feel jealous if tomorrow Virat Kohli reaches the level of Sachin Tendulkar because your subconscious knows he is very much skillful in cricket but you will surely feel jealous if your any friend reaches there.
How to do this?
Our brain contains nerve cells and a few of them are with special properties. They are called mirror neurons. Those cells let us put ourselves in someone’s position and to feel his/her emotions. This is the reason we feel sad when our close one are in sad, we feel happy when our friends are happy. Those cells enable us to copy and feel the emotions of others. This happens because our subconscious mind doesn’t differentiate between real and imaginary, right and wrong. Thats why you become excited, happy, sad, during movies or reading novels. You consciously know that this is merely a movie which is not real but still you flow into the emotions portrayed by the characters. All because of mirror neurons and your subconscious mind. Your conscious mind knows the truth but for your subconscious mind real and imaginary things are same. It is getting programmed with everything.
This can be used in more positive aspects also, be with inspiring people, read about successful people, watch videos of successful people. When you do their excitement, motivation all the positive emotions they felt will be copied to you by your mirror neurons and you will feel the same positive emotions. This way your subconscious mind will be programmed positive way. I already mentioned that conscious mind is only 5% and rest 95% is your subconscious mind. Today I watched Bhaag Milkha Bhaag movie, I already knew about Flying Sikh, but during the movie I became excited when he won the medals, I became sad when his family was ruined. My mirror neurons was enabling me to experience all the emotions and in the end of the movie I felt very much motivated, determined.
Just wait for a minute and check your automatic thoughts going inside your mind spontaneously. It will either be about something which happened in past or something about future. My point is we never live in present, scientifically proven than 95% of our thoughts are either about our past bad moments or future worries which are yet to happen.
Here comes a term called art of “Conscious Living” and indeed it is an art and need to be learned. It is about keeping our past bad memory aside and not focusing on future worries which are yet to be realized, just concentrating on our present moment. Sounds difficult but there is a way.
Rajesh was very depressed. He was jobless, no achievements, bank balance zero and relationships were already broken. One day he came up with a great plan. He took pen and paper and wrote down his future plans. He planned of doing MBA then high package job in multinational company, then fulfilling dreams for his parents, then beautiful wife, happy life. After planning all that he immediately got motivated and started preparing for MBA entrance and he performed great. What happened?
As his present was not good, so he created a bright future in his mind (It is your mind and you have the full authority to do anything with it ) and he just borrowed some hope from that future to his present.
Thats why before exams we all write down our plans for study when we are in tension
15/7/13 – maths revision etc etc
20/7/13- Cracking the exam
what happens after that ??
You immediately become relaxed and confident, because you ensured your subconscious mind that I have a plan and I will manage it. I already explained in my previous article that subconscious mind creates emotions only to remind you of something that is not going normal. Here before exam subconscious mind was sending you emotion of tension just to remind you that you are not up to date with your preparation but when you wrote down your plans and with this plan you correctly replied to your subconscious mind that I am on my way.
This is borrowing some positive emotions from future as it is yet to happen. In above examples both of them created plans for future and borrowed some positive emotions from there. Your subconscious mind is like a distant observer who keeps an eye on you 24×7, god might miss you for a moment but your subconscious won’t. So it is all about convincing your subconscious mind.
But one important thing, your goal/plan has to be realistic so that your subconscious mind believes it. Say you are not sure of getting more than 30% marks in your final exam which is scheduled one month from today. Now you write down plan of securing 90% then your subconscious mind will immediately reply you “You moron!! stop kidding me”. So do it step by step. Write down plan for next one week and keep target of 50% marks, this time subconscious mind will believe your 20% uncertainity you added and work hard. After one week your subconscious mind will be confident for 50% marks (If you really followed your plan), then next one week target of 70% (again adding 20% uncertainity) and finally in last week 90%. This is how your mind works. Making your subconscious mind to believe you. This way you can bring hope in your life when you lost all of your motivation.
Ruby on Rails: Too Simple, or Just Simple Enough?
PLOS recently launched ALM Reports, implemented as a Ruby on Rails (RoR) app. I’m one of two engineers who implemented this site. I’m not going to say too much about the functional aspects of the app, other than that it’s a really cool way to compare groups of PLOS research articles and that you should check it out. The point of this blog post is to talk about the technical architecture of the implementation, and what I think worked and didn’t work well with RoR. Also, I should add that this was my first Rails (and Ruby) app ever, although I luckily had the help of another talented developer with previous Rails experience.
The Rails Way
The Rails getting started guide states very clearly that “Rails is opinionated software.” They are not kidding. Well, I’m an opinionated developer, hence this blog post.
“Convention over configuration” as a framework paradigm has been gaining in popularity for many years now. Maven, which we use as our Java build framework at PLOS, is another product that heavily uses CoC. The reason this idea has become so popular is simple–no developer wants to go through the headache of customizing dozens of configuration files just to get to “first light” of their app, as it seemed like you had to do with many of the earlier Java web application frameworks.
RoR takes CoC a step further, the goal being to make it easy to do simple things and possible to do hard ones. The framework offers many useful features out of the box, from XSRF and XSS protection to a schema migration framework, and everything in between. But the catch is that these features expect you to do things “the Rails way.” For example, form validation is primarily done at the model layer, instead of at the controller layer as in other MVC-based frameworks. But what if you don’t have a model instance associated with a form? (More on why that might happen below.) Turns out you are pretty much out of luck. You can try to shimmy a bogus model in that’s only around to do validation, and I tried that, but it felt like such a hack that I ended up doing all the validation in the controller by hand for this particular form.
Another interesting aspect of our app that Rails wasn’t particularly happy about: about half of it is backed by Active Record models, while the other half is not. In the first part of the app flow, the user assembles a collection of PLOS articles by performing searches. You can think of it a little bit like filling your shopping cart while browsing amazon.com or any other ecommerce site. We made the decision that we wanted to store the article IDs in the user’s session (backed by memcache), rather than in the database, to keep things simple and avoid having to garbage-collect abandoned sessions. Furthermore, our representation of a PLOS article, and the information about it that we want to display in the app, never comes from our app’s database. Instead, we query our solr instance for this information (with caching as necessary for performance). These two factors meant that we simply couldn’t use Active Record for the first part of the app flow, and instead arrived at a “heavy controller” architecture that Rails advocates would consider a code smell.
There are a couple of frameworks that claim to back Active Record entities with solr entities. We didn’t try them since, frankly, we were more interested in getting our site out the door than playing around with some third-party code that may or may not have worked for us.